Listen to your own mother….
“I’m telling you this because I know so… I’m not trying to be mean to you….”
We all have said this and we all learned this approach really doesn’t work for kids.
I should know by know that I need to find a different approach for my kids but I am still trying to convince my kids that why they need to listen to me…
According to my mom, I was a “good kid” who listened to her really well…. (Thanks mom <3)
I didn’t realize until I became a mom, but as I look back, my mom has always been my role model. There are so many things that I need to thank my mom because If I didn’t listen to my mom, I wouldn’t be here with my wonderful husband and my lovely girls.
My Mom said…. Being able to speak English will benefit you when you grow up!
I still remember the day when my mom took me to English Conversation School called ECC.
As I was sitting at a couch by the check in desk, I was looking at a picture with a human body. On the picture, it points to different parts of the body and shows how to say it in English. Back then, I couldn’t read what it said. On top of the picture, it says “human”. Obviously, it makes sense now but when I was staring the picture, I was 10 years old with no English education.
I was trying to figure out what it meant. I was managed to sound it out in Japanese and I read as “Fu-Ma-N” which means unsatisfied in Japanese. I had a lot of question marks in my head and then a receptionist at the school called us in to a small room to show us a video about this school.
I remember clearly of what my mom told me. She said, “it will be beneficial for you to be able to speak English when you grow up. You should start going to this school to study English. Would you be ok with this place…?”
I’m so glad that my parents gave me the opportunity to get a head start on English education. In late 1980s to early 1990s, English education wasn’t well developed and English subject wasn’t introduced until I was in junior high. Because I get to learn from native English speaking teachers in an early age, my English accent isn’t too heavy and I wasn’t afraid to speak to someone who didn’t speak Japanese.
I must say, this was one of the best investment that my parents gave me. Now, I get to communicate with people from all over the world through blogging.
My mom said… You should apply for the exchange program.
When I was a freshman at a high school, my mom went to a parents and teacher conference. My home class teacher knew that I’m good at English and she mentioned that there is an exchange program opportunity and a chosen student can go to San Diego for 3 weeks for FREE!!!
My mom asked the teacher a copy of the flyer and she showed it to me. To be honest, I didn’t pay attention to any of the information boards at school because they were so boring…
When I saw the location, San Diego, I had no idea where it was. I somehow thought it was somewhere in China.
Me: No, mom. I don’t need to go to China.
Mom: What are you talking about… San Diego is in California. It is in US.
Me: Oh, ok.
Mom: You should apply for this exchange program. It might be your first opportunity to study abroad and it is FREE!!
I knew what my mom recommended was right, and I immediately worked on a requirement.
An essay…. Written in English….. Whaaaaat!!!???
Me:Mom, there is no way I can write an essay in English… what do I do?
Mom: Why don’t you ask your English teacher at your cram school?
On the same day, my mom and I went to ask my English teacher who could translate my Japanese essay in English. Luckily, he agreed to do it and I could not thank enough for this..
Few weeks after the application deadline had passed, my home school teacher ran towards me and congratulated that I was chosen to go to San Diego!
If my mom didn’t push me to apply for this exchange program, I might have been still living in Japan. Here is another long story short, but if I wasn’t chosen for this program, I would never met my husband.
Once again, thanks mom!
Sometimes, we don’t realize that our own mother is right until we grow up…
“I’m telling you to do this because I know so….”
One day, my girls will realize this powerful sentence.